{"id":6097,"date":"2025-10-27T09:49:20","date_gmt":"2025-10-27T13:49:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/?p=6097"},"modified":"2025-10-27T09:49:25","modified_gmt":"2025-10-27T13:49:25","slug":"i-am-an-athlete","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/index.php\/i-am-an-athlete\/","title":{"rendered":"I Am An Athlete"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>It took 54 years, but I finally love my body<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>By Jessica Gardner<br>Current Contributor<\/strong><br><br>My body and I have been in a constant battle with each other for as long as I can remember, at least back to the 1980s.<br><br>I grew up in the 1970s and \u201980s as an average-weight kid. I was tall for my age, until I stopped growing any taller at age 10; I developed early, and my weight reflected that. I wasn\u2019t skinny, but I also wasn\u2019t overweight.<br><br>Organized sports weren\u2019t my thing. I grew up in a household where only boys played organized sports, so I spent many Saturdays on the sidelines watching my brother play soccer. I wasn\u2019t coordinated, so even tennis lessons were a waste for me.<br><br>When I was 12, my paternal grandmother told me at a family dinner party that, if I had a second serving of a side dish, I\u2019d grow up to be fat and no one would love me.\u00a0<br><br>Those words rang in my head for decades.<br><br>That may have been when I first became weight-obsessed and started dieting. I was on one diet after another throughout high school, even though I had always maintained a healthy weight previously. I was obsessed.<br><br>The thing about those diets was that, even though I\u2019d lose the five to 10 pounds I wanted to lose, I\u2019d eventually regain it and add another couple of pounds.\u00a0<br><br>By the time I finished high school, I hated my body\u2014and, by extension, myself. I was probably only 15 pounds above what my doctor would have liked, but all I saw was the \u201cfat lady from the circus\u201d every time I looked in the mirror.<br><br>College was no different\u2014one fad diet after another\u2014except it also included beer at frat parties. I\u2019m sure I added the \u201cfreshman 15\u201d without blinking.<br><br>The summer after my first year of college, I religiously exercised and ate nothing but bland chicken breast, grapefruit halves, and salad, and I lost the now extra 30 pounds that I was carrying. I recall returning to school for my sophomore year feeling like I was on top of the world.<br><br>I maintained my exercise routine and healthy eating habits that second year of college. In fact, during the summer between my sophomore and junior years of college, while working at Watervale in Arcadia, I walked about eight miles daily up Stratton Hill and back. I\u2019d never been healthier or in better shape\u2014still, I wholeheartedly believed I\u2019d never been fatter and uglier.\u00a0<br><br>I remember feeling ashamed of my body while wearing a bikini for the first time in my life that summer. (For perspective, my five-foot-four-inch body probably weighed 125 to 130 pounds at the time.)<br><br>When I returned that fall for my junior year of college, I sank into what I now know was a deep depression. I struggled emotionally and academically, but I didn\u2019t know how to get help. The depression turned to shame as I stopped exercising, ate poorly, and hid in my dorm room to avoid being seen eating in the cafeteria.\u00a0<br><br>A group of boys drew a caricature of me on the bathroom wall\u2014my face on top of Shamu\u2019s body. As I came to learn, Shamu was an orca whale at SeaWorld.<br><br>And those 30 pounds that I\u2019d worked so hard to lose and keep off? They quickly came back\u2014along with an additional 10 or 15 extra pounds.<br><br>The depression and shame turned into a cycle I couldn\u2019t stop.\u00a0<br><br>The more depressed and ashamed I felt, the more I struggled academically. The more I struggled academically, the more I beat myself up. The more I beat myself up, the more I ate to soothe myself. The more I ate, the more weight I gained, and the more depression and shame I felt. Lather. Rinse. Repeat.<br><br>After college, I moved to Washington, D.C., and dove headfirst into my work as a paralegal for a top law firm. I loved what I did. It was exciting, and I was great at my job. The harder I worked, the more I succeeded. The only problem was that, by working 60 to 80 hours each week, I wasn\u2019t cooking\u2014I was eating at work, either whatever was available in our cafeteria or whatever could be delivered.<br><br>Caffeine was my lifeblood at that point\u2014Diet Coke, to be specific. I\u2019m not a coffee drinker, so when I wanted caffeine, Diet Coke was it.<br><br>I didn\u2019t sleep much\u2014who sleeps when you\u2019re working 60 to 80 hours weekly, going out with friends, studying to get into law school, and doing all of the regular household stuff required once you\u2019re an adult\u2014and relied on caffeine and sugar to boost my energy.<br><br>I joined gyms and occasionally took fitness classes, but I always quit, ashamed and feeling like I didn\u2019t belong.\u00a0<br><br>I\u2019d look around and see \u201cskinny\u201d and \u201cfit\u201d people and feel like I stuck out like a sore thumb. <em>What right did I, an overweight woman, have to walk into a gym or class with pictures of skinny people on the walls and actual skinny people everywhere?\u00a0<\/em><br><br>And it wasn\u2019t just all in my head. I distinctly recall being on a treadmill and overhearing a man say to his buddy, \u201cI can\u2019t wait until all of the fat New Year\u2019s members quit, so we can have our gym back.\u201d<br><br>I never returned to that gym.<br><br>Instead, I continued to try every diet. Jenny Craig. Weight Watchers. The Diet Center. Slim Fast. The Grapefruit Diet. The Cabbage Soup Diet. Nutrisystem. Hypnosis. I did them all\u2014multiple times.<br><br>In the late 1990s, my cousin invited me to be one of her bridesmaids. I was ecstatic to support her as a member of her wedding party; I\u2019d never been a bridesmaid, and I thought of her like the sister I\u2019d never had. She picked out a gorgeous designer dress that all of the bridesmaids radiated in. When it was my turn to try it on, though, the saleswoman looked me up and down and said it didn\u2019t come in my size\u2014a size 16 or 18. The largest size available was a 12.\u00a0<br><br>But my cousin loved the dress and announced this was \u201cthe one.\u201d<br><br>When I asked her if I could just wear a similar dress, she said no and told me to take Fen-Phen\u2014a combination of two appetite-suppressant drugs, fenfluramine and phentermine\u2014so that I could wear the dress she had chosen and be in her wedding.<br><br>I marched directly into my doctor\u2019s office and demanded it. Three months and more than 30 pounds later, Fen-Phen was pulled from the market and from my life, because of the heart problems it left many users with. And I still couldn\u2019t squeeze into the size 12 formal dress, anyway.\u00a0<br><br>So I was out of the wedding, not by choice, but because of my weight\u2014I didn\u2019t fit in the dress, and the dress was non-negotiable for my cousin.<br><br>The shame I felt at failing to lose enough weight to fit into the dress was compounded with mean comments from a great-aunt, who said I didn\u2019t have any right to be in the wedding, because none of the other cousins had been asked.\u00a0<br><br>I\u2019d also experienced a panic attack during the middle of the LSAT, the exam required to apply for law school: I had blown the test, which left me feeling even worse.<br><br>Needless to say, the weight that I\u2019d lost\u2014plus some\u2014came back quickly.\u00a0<br><br>I told myself my weight didn\u2019t matter anymore. No matter what I did, I was never not going to be fat. I was convinced that my grandmother had been right all those years ago about the twice-baked potato.<br><br>I sank back into the old cycle of depression, shame, eating, and hiding. Lather. Rinse. Repeat.<br><br>As an emotional eater, I ate when I was happy, sad, stressed, lonely, and upset. It was both a reward and a punishment. Actually, I used both eating and not eating as both a reward and a punishment.<br><br>My 30s and 40s were a blur of more yo-yo dieting. I began swimming daily, losing weight, and building muscle, which I loved. However, when someone who knew I struggled to find joy in exercise flippantly told me that swimming \u201cwasn\u2019t good enough,\u201d I quit\u2014if a whole-body exercise like swimming wasn\u2019t a good enough exercise for me, I could never successfully exercise and lose weight, I reasoned.<br><br>By my 40s, my health began to deteriorate. My thyroid stopped working correctly. I developed pre-diabetes. I was diagnosed with sleep apnea. I had stage 0 breast cancer, twice. I had uterine fibroid surgery. My depression was back, and it brought its friend, anxiety, with it. I wasn\u2019t sleeping.\u00a0<br><br>I knew that I was dangerously close to permanently damaging my health, but I didn\u2019t know how to fix it. My doctor would tell me to \u201close weight,\u201d and I would sarcastically think, <em>Why didn\u2019t I think of that brilliant idea?<\/em><br><br>Living outside of Chicago at the time, I\u2019d participate in Hike Lake County, an annual event where participants completed five two-mile hikes in two months. I tried Zumba, yoga, more swimming, and walking. I even tried running once, maybe twice. I did plank challenges. But I couldn\u2019t get any of it to \u201cstick\u201d or even find enjoyment in it. Also, because I was out of shape, I got winded quickly and discovered pain in parts of my body that I didn\u2019t know could hurt, which made me feel ashamed and discouraged.<br><br>I even signed up for a few five-kilometer (5K) walks, but I never actually showed up the day of, because I was sure I\u2019d be the fattest and slowest person there and wouldn\u2019t be welcome.<br><br>I kept hearing the voice inside my head telling me I wasn\u2019t enough\u2014I would never be athletic enough to belong in spaces that I believed were reserved for \u201cfit\u201d people. In my mind, athletes were thin people who were already in top physical shape. Something I obviously wasn\u2019t and believed I never could be.\u00a0<br><br>I was right back in the endless loop of shame, eating, depression, anxiety, and hiding. Lather. Rinse. Repeat.<br><br>When I visited Watervale during the summers, as I had since I was a child, I stopped doing many of the active things that I had always enjoyed. Climbing Baldy and the Sleeping Bear Dunes. Walking to the Outlet. Swimming. Even kayaking. I didn\u2019t want to slow other people down and feel their silent judgment, and I especially didn\u2019t want to discover that I couldn\u2019t make it to the top of Baldy. I already felt bad enough; I couldn\u2019t face more disappointment in myself.<br><br>Leaving Chicago four years ago to live year-round in the beauty of Benzie County, I vowed to find a way to enjoy exercise, once and for all.\u00a0<br><br>I went on hikes in good weather and kayaked more, but I still felt ashamed. No matter what I tried, I really didn\u2019t truly enjoy any of it. Sure, I loved the beauty of being outdoors, but I still loathed exercise and believed I didn\u2019t belong in these spaces.<br><br>Earlier this year, I visited my friend Phil in Florida for a few weeks. He\u2019s really fit, and I knew he worked out at Planet Fitness. I\u2019d seen the commercials for Planet Fitness and its \u201cNo Judgment Zone.\u201d Curious, I asked Phil if I could be a guest of his \u201cjust once or twice\u201d at the gym. He told me that he could do better than that\u2014I could go with him daily.<br><br>At my first visit on March 16, I proudly walked two miles on the treadmill in 53 minutes and 50 seconds. I probably could have walked faster, but I wasn\u2019t sure how my body would react, and so I took it slow.<br><br>Over the next two weeks, I increased my movement from about 2,000 steps per day to an average of 9,000 steps as we visited the gym almost daily. The days when we weren\u2019t at the gym, we were walking around Jacksonville, Cape Canaveral, St. Augustine, Amelia Island, and Tarpon Springs.\u00a0<br><br>We developed a gym routine\u2014I walked on the treadmill, while Phil did the treadmill and weights. When he finished his workouts, we ended with a cool-down on the massage chairs.<br><br>Just two weeks after my first workout, on March 30, Phil walked towards me to see if I was ready for the massage chair. I looked at him and adamantly said:\u00a0<br><br>\u201cDon\u2019t come near me! I\u2019m on track to walk three miles in 60 minutes, and I\u2019m not stopping! Go away!\u201d\u00a0<br><br>I didn\u2019t know it, but for the first time in my life, I was in The Zone\u2014that elusive place, filled with endorphins I\u2019d heard other people talk about but didn\u2019t believe existed.<br><br>When I finished 3.05 miles in 59:18, I audibly cheered. I\u2019m sure people heard me, because I heard myself through the loud Taylor Swift music in my earbuds. But I didn\u2019t care. I floated out of the gym knowing I\u2019d achieved something significant and wanting to experience it again.<br><br>In just two weeks, I\u2019d gone from walking an approximate 27-minute mile to less than a 20-minute mile. What a rush. I was sold and announced that I was joining Planet Fitness up in Traverse City when I returned from vacation to Northern Michigan the following week.<br><br>Not only did I have a newfound joy in exercising for the first time in my life, but I also learned some new things about how to feed my body for that exercise.<br><br>Phil is a phenomenal cook, and the cleanest eater I know. During the three weeks that I was in Florida, he taught me more about healthy eating than I\u2019d ever learned in the dozens of diets I\u2019d been on throughout my life. His regular diet is a modified Mediterranean Diet, which I now enjoy immensely.\u00a0<br><br>I even (mostly) gave up Diet Coke.\u00a0<br><br>I returned to Benzie having lost about 10 pounds, and my vacation clothes were no longer fitting, because they were now too big.<br><br>True to my word, I became a daily visitor to Planet Fitness in Traverse City, despite the 45-minute drive up and 45 minutes back. And I loved it. I wasn\u2019t concerned about my walking speed or about people thinking I didn\u2019t belong. No one cared. Planet Fitness really was \u201cjudgment free.\u201d I joined Planet Fitness Facebook groups, where members were cheered on for their health and fitness journeys\u2014not simply for losing weight.<br><br>I also continued to eat the way that Phil had shown me in Florida\u2014high protein, low carb, with an emphasis on lots of fresh produce. He taught me to dress my salad with a little olive and truffle oil rather than processed salad dressings. How did I not know about this delicious, healthy hack?<br><br>One day, I walked into Fleet Feet to buy a new pair of Hoka gym shoes and saw a sign for the Run the Runway 5K happening at the Cherry Capital Airport in Traverse City in mid-May, about a month later. I snapped a picture of the sign and couldn\u2019t get the thought of participating in a 5K (3.1 miles) out of my head.<br><br>But I had serious doubts. All the thoughts ran through my head:<em> Could I finish before they forced me off the route, so planes could land? Would I be dead last? Would I embarrass myself? Would people laugh at me?<\/em><br><br>I reached out to my friends Christie\u2014a runner for years who has completed numerous Ironman competitions, marathons, and 5Ks\u2014and Blair, who is an avid daily walker. They both assured me that my current speed of 3.1 miles in a little over an hour was not too slow and that the Run the Runway 5K was the perfect first race. Blair was even planning to do it herself, so I\u2019d know someone.<br><br>I signed up and told Phil of my goal: to complete the race in under 60 minutes. That became my workout benchmark. They cheered each day when I texted a pic of my treadmill accomplishment. Beyond Phil, Christie, and Blair, though, I didn\u2019t tell anyone else for a few weeks; I was still afraid of judgment from friends\u2014and from myself.<br><br>As I continued to train, weight started coming off quickly, and many of my clothes no longer fit. When I shared a photo of the pile of clothes that I was taking to Lake Effect Consignment in Elberta, Phil cheered this accomplishment, too. And on days when I felt discouraged or didn\u2019t want to exercise, he gave me pep talks.<br><br>I saw my primary care physician at the end of April. He was really excited about my plan to walk a 5K and the weight I had lost. I was down about 18 or 19 pounds at that point, and I told him that my goal was to be down 30 pounds by the time I saw him next, at the end of July. We ran bloodwork that day, and my results showed significant improvement from where they\u2019d been a year earlier.\u00a0<br><br>Not only was weight coming off, but my 5K time was coming down, too.\u00a0<br><br>On May 7, I finished a 5K on the treadmill at 58:03. The next day, I completed it in 56:44. Then I walked a 5K on the Betsie Valley Trail in 59 minutes. Ten days before the race, I was regularly hitting my goal.\u00a0<br><br>For the first time, I felt like I would be successful in an athletic activity.<br><br>On more than one occasion during the month leading up to the Run the Runway 5K, I did something I\u2019d never done before: I exercised twice in a day. I\u2019d spend my morning at Planet Fitness and take a second walk after dinner.\u00a0<br><br>I got to the point where my body wouldn\u2019t let me go to bed at night without exercising. <em>Who was I becoming?<\/em><br><br>The morning of the race, it was 49 degrees and raining. I honestly wasn\u2019t sure if I even wanted to drive to Traverse City to exercise in the gross weather, but I\u2019d made a commitment to myself, Blair, Phil, Christie, Dave (my brother), and also my friend Linda, and I wasn\u2019t going to let myself out of it. Dave and Linda were even coming to cheer me on\u2014if they were going to stand out in the rain to support me, the least I could do was show up and give it my all.<br><br>I arrived a bit early and stopped at Planet Fitness to warm up on the treadmill. That was a wise decision. At the race site, Blair gave me a quick pep talk, I turned up Taylor Swift, and I was ready to go when the gun went off.<br><br>I made myself a promise: no matter what, I wouldn\u2019t look behind me\u2014I was afraid that if I did and saw that I was last, I\u2019d quit before the race was over. I needed to stay out of my own head. I had a goal, and looking behind me wasn\u2019t going to help me achieve it.<br><br>At the first mile marker, I high-fived the sign. I was feeling good. At this point, however, the route curved, and\u2014much to my surprise\u2014I saw more than a few people behind me. That motivated me to keep going, but I knew this wasn\u2019t about them or anyone else\u2019s speed, including mine; it was about me and about finishing what I had set out to do.\u00a0<br><br>I had to prove to myself that I could do this.<br><br>I high-fived the second mile marker, but I was feeling tired by this point. So I turned up my music and reminded myself that I was more than halfway through\u2014I could finish this race.<br><br>Because I forgot to turn on my timer app, I didn\u2019t know how far along I was towards my 60-minute goal. I just kept walking.<br><br>There was no third mile marker, but I saw my friends waiting for me at the finish line and pressed on.<br><br>Crossing the finish line, I heard the Rocky theme in my head and raised my arms to cheer for myself. My friends tackled me with hugs and many congratulations.<br><br>My time? 57:01\u2014I\u2019d beat my 60-minute goal, with a ton of time to spare!<br><br>Tears of joy ran down my face. I\u2019d set a physical goal and beat it. I\u2019d battled the negative words that still lived rent free in my brain and won. And, once again, I had that incredible rush of endorphins that made me want to keep exercising in the first place, just a couple of months ago.<br><br>Later that day, I posted pictures of the race on Facebook with the words:\u00a0<br><br>\u201cI am an athlete.\u201d<br><br>Those words have become my mantra as I\u2019ve continued on this journey. As I write this article, I\u2019m proud to say that I\u2019ve walked a total of five 5Ks\u2014Run the Runway in Traverse City on May 17, Kick Yer Asparagus Fun Run in Empire on June 7, Firecracker 5K in Beulah on the 4th of July, Running Bear Run in Glen Arbor on July 22, and Blueberry Dash in Frankfort on August 2. My time has decreased from 57:01 in the first race to 54:55 by the Blueberry Dash.\u00a0<br><br>I even went kayaking after completing the Blueberry Dash\u2014because that\u2019s what athletes do, and I\u2019m an athlete now.<br><br>Notably, I\u2019ve come in last place twice, and I learned that it doesn\u2019t matter, because people cheer just as loudly for the first-place winner as for the last-place winner. And let\u2019s face it, anyone who completes a race\u2014no matter the race distance or the time it takes them\u2014is a winner.\u00a0<br><br>What matters is that I am out there doing it. And I\u2019m loving it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"773\" height=\"1030\" src=\"http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/JessGardner_IMG_4424-773x1030.jpg\" alt=\"sleeping bear dunes national lakeshore dune climb jessica gardner i am an athlete the betsie current newspaper benzie county northern michigan essay special september issue healthy health weight loss exercise program\" class=\"wp-image-6099\" srcset=\"http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/JessGardner_IMG_4424-773x1030.jpg 773w, http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/JessGardner_IMG_4424-225x300.jpg 225w, http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/JessGardner_IMG_4424-768x1024.jpg 768w, http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/JessGardner_IMG_4424-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/JessGardner_IMG_4424-1536x2048.jpg 1536w, http:\/\/betsiecurrent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/JessGardner_IMG_4424-scaled.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 773px) 100vw, 773px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>On the day that this essay is going to print, the author climbed Sleeping Bear for the first time in close to 20 years. Image courtesy of Jessica Gardner.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve gained enough confidence through this process that I have transferred my gym membership from Planet Fitness in Traverse City to the Betsie Hosick Health &amp; Fitness Center just outside Frankfort, where you\u2019ll find me on the treadmill, the elliptical, and doing weights.\u00a0<br><br>I\u2019m also hiking my favorite spots\u2014Green Point, Baldy, Pete\u2019s Woods, and Railroad Point\u2014and it is easy now. On the day that this essay is going to print, \u00a0I climbed Sleeping Bear for the first time in close to 20 years. I kayaked on Lake Michigan for three hours earlier this month without my arms falling off.<br><br>And that end-of-July visit with my physician?\u00a0<br><br>I hit my goal of losing 30 pounds and learned that my A1C was on the cusp of not being pre-diabetic anymore. My doctor cut both my antidepressant and pre-diabetes medicines in half. I\u2019ll get a full panel of blood work at the end of October, and I have a new goal: eliminate my antidepressant and pre-diabetes medications for good. Last week, my sleep apnea doctor lowered the pressure on my CPAP by 25 percent, and I have a goal to be off the CPAP by this time next year.<br><br>While I haven\u2019t lost any additional weight over the last month, I\u2019ve maintained my 30-pound weight loss, and I\u2019m happy about it. August and September have brought many friends and family members to town, with lots of dining out and entertaining at my house; I\u2019m no longer hiding when I eat, and that feels great. Maintaining my daily exercise and the 30 pounds makes me proud, for now.<br><br>I\u2019ve got three more 5Ks in the next few weeks: Betsie Valley Trail Run in Thompsonville on September 27, Run the Town Pink 5K in Manistee on October 4, and Port City Run 5K in Frankfort on October 11. My goal for these races is to finish in less than 54 minutes.\u00a0<br><br>That will be eight 5Ks since May; I plan to complete a total of 10 races by the end of December.<br><br>Yes, I\u2019ve still got weight to lose. More than I care to think about, but I\u2019m taking it in 10-pound bites\u2014pun intended.\u00a0<br><br>I celebrate new low weights. I celebrate new walking speeds. I celebrate new weight-lifting accomplishments. I celebrate the way I can move my body today that I couldn\u2019t six months ago. I celebrate clothes I haven\u2019t been able to wear in 10 years. I celebrate how all of this makes me feel, the newfound confidence that I have. I celebrate exercising even when I don\u2019t want to. And I celebrate the way that I now see food and exercise not as rewards or punishments, but as ways to nourish both my body and soul.<br><br>When I eat my modified Mediterranean Diet, I don\u2019t feel deprived. I feel great. I\u2019m drinking lots of water and have cut my Diet Coke to about eight ounces each day; on many days, though, I don\u2019t have any. My body craves daily exercise. I\u2019m sleeping a lot better.<br><br>Best of all, the cycle of depression, shame, eating, and hiding is a thing of the past.\u00a0<br><br>Instead, I\u2019ve discovered a new cycle of eating healthy, exercise, water, and sleep. Lather. Rinse. Repeat. And I have never felt better.<br><br>Have I had some slip-ups and done some emotional eating? Of course. I did it just a couple of nights ago, actually, but it happens a lot less frequently than it used to; I am able to pull myself out of my emotional eating faster, and I no longer beat myself up for it.\u00a0<br><br>This is a journey that\u2019s not always a straight line. I\u2019m looking for progress, not perfection.<br><br>Years of therapy have taught me that the negative voices inside my head are liars and helped me to process the traumas that led me to be an emotional eater. I\u2019ve also learned to ignore the people who say being overweight is due to laziness, because, in my experience, many of them have no idea what they\u2019re talking about.<br><br>My body and I are no longer frenemies. We\u2019re working together, not against each other. And we\u2019ve become friends.<br><br>When I stand in front of my mirror, I no longer see the weight of the shame I felt for decades. I no longer see ugly. The negative words of myself and of others no longer live in my brain. Yes, I still remember the words of strangers and family members, but now, they have no power over me.<br><br>I see the strength of a life well lived, the courage to keep going, the scars of battles fought and won\u2014some physical, some in my head\u2014of developing muscles I didn\u2019t know could come back. I see beauty in whatever size I am.\u00a0<br><br>I see an athlete.<br><br><strong>Featured Photo Caption: <\/strong>On a gray day in May, Jessica Gardner finished her first 5K competition in 57 minutes. 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